Trauma leaves marks that go far beyond the body and mind. Whether it comes suddenly through violence, loss, or disaster, or builds slowly through years of neglect or stress, it changes how we see the world and ourselves. For people of faith, trauma also touches the soul. It can raise painful questions: Where was God in my suffering? Why did this happen to me? Can I still find comfort in prayer, scripture, or rituals when I feel abandoned or betrayed?
These questions are part of what psychologists call spiritual struggles. They are a normal response to trauma, yet they are often misunderstood or silenced. Faith-based counselling provides a place where these struggles are not pushed aside but explored with compassion. It acknowledges that trauma does not only break routines or relationships — it can also shake the very foundations of belief.
How Trauma Shapes Faith
When people go through trauma, their deepest assumptions about life are often shattered. Someone who once believed the world is safe may suddenly feel constant fear. A person who trusted in God’s protection may question why their prayers seemed unanswered. Others may blame themselves, seeing trauma as punishment for sins or weakness in their faith. Still others feel anger at the divine, wrestling with whether God is good, just, or even present at all.
Psychologist Julie Exline describes spiritual struggles as tensions in how we relate to God, our community, and ourselves. This might be the sense of being punished or abandoned, conflict with religious leaders, or guilt over actions taken during or after traumatic events. Her research shows that ignoring these struggles often worsens mental health, while openly addressing them can become a turning point toward resilience.
What Research Tells Us
Kenneth Pargament, who has studied the psychology of religion for decades, found that many people instinctively turn to faith when trauma strikes. This can be a profound source of strength when it helps people find meaning, lean on community, or deepen trust in God. But when trauma is interpreted as punishment or abandonment, it often leads to worse outcomes, including depression and hopelessness.
Harold Koenig’s reviews of hundreds of studies highlight a similar pattern. Spirituality can buffer the impact of trauma — lowering rates of substance abuse, depression, and even suicide — but only when people are able to process their struggles openly. When doubts, anger, or guilt are suppressed, the protective power of faith diminishes.
Other studies, including those with survivors of war, abuse, and natural disasters, show that practices like forgiveness and compassion, when introduced carefully, can ease symptoms of post-traumatic stress. But if communities push survivors to forgive too quickly, without justice or healing, it can retraumatise rather than restore. These findings remind us that both timing and context matter, and that counselling plays a crucial role in pacing the process of healing.
Experiences Across Faiths
Trauma interacts with faith differently across traditions. A Christian survivor of abuse may struggle with teachings about forgiveness, asking how a loving God could allow such pain. A Muslim facing war or disaster might wrestle with questions about destiny, yet also draw comfort from concepts of patience and trust in God. A Jewish family may feel the weight of history, asking why suffering continues, while still finding strength in rituals that create continuity, such as Shabbat. In Hinduism or Buddhism, some may interpret trauma as the result of karma, which can deepen guilt, while others lean into meditation and compassion practices that ease suffering. In Traditional African communities, trauma may be seen as a rupture in ancestral harmony, with rituals of reconciliation playing a key role in healing.
Despite these differences, the common thread is that trauma disrupts meaning. When faith is experienced as supportive, it helps people find purpose in suffering. When it is experienced as condemning, it deepens despair.
How Counselling Makes a Difference
Faith-based counselling offers survivors a chance to bring both their wounds and their beliefs into the same conversation. For many, this is the first time they feel permitted to voice anger at God, admit doubts, or acknowledge guilt without being told to “just pray harder.” Validation is the first step: recognising that these emotions are real and normal.
From there, counsellors can help survivors reframe harmful beliefs. Instead of seeing trauma as divine punishment, counselling might draw on the client’s own tradition to highlight teachings of compassion, justice, or endurance. A Christian might reflect on biblical stories of suffering leading to renewal. A Buddhist might use meditation practices to calm the nervous system while reflecting on impermanence and resilience. A Traditional African client might be supported in participating in reconciliation rituals while also learning psychological tools for processing fear.
Importantly, therapy does not force survivors back into communities before they are ready. Instead, it encourages safe, gradual re-engagement. And it makes clear that forgiveness or reconciliation should never mean tolerating ongoing harm. Survivors are guided to set healthy boundaries, pursue justice when needed, and still find peace in their spiritual lives.
Families and Communities in Healing
Trauma rarely affects only one person. Families often carry the ripple effects. Spouses may feel helpless or distant. Parents may blame themselves or each other. Children may interpret suffering in ways that instill fear or shame. Extended families and communities may either provide comfort or, at times, add to the burden through stigma or silence.
Counselling can bridge these divides. By creating a space where each person’s spiritual experience is respected, therapy helps families talk about trauma without falling into blame. It teaches communication tools that support empathy, and it shows families that recovery is not about erasing the past but about walking through it together.
Finding Meaning After Trauma
Ultimately, the work of faith-based counselling is to help survivors rebuild meaning. Trauma often leaves people feeling that life has lost coherence, that nothing makes sense anymore. Reconnecting with faith, whether through rituals, scripture, meditation, or community, can help piece together a new story. But the process works best when guided with care, ensuring that faith is a source of healing, not pressure.
This rebuilding does not mean returning to who we were before. It means integrating the pain into a new understanding of self, faith, and purpose. Survivors often describe coming out of counselling not with fewer scars, but with a stronger sense of resilience and compassion — for themselves and for others.
Call for Your Reflection
If you have lived through trauma, you may have asked questions of God, your tradition, or yourself that felt too heavy to say aloud. These questions are not weakness. They are part of the human struggle to make sense of suffering.
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